Can’t Isn’t Against You, It’s Part of You
As I was working to make plans with my friend, I started to realize how much I dance around other people’s schedules. Stating that made me think that I lack control or decisiveness but that, too, is untrue. I know what I want, and I can sense how it could turn out, but reality guides me to remember that I need help to make things happen. I do live with a disability and can’t expect others to do whatever I wish and there’s always life details to weave into the picture. If I need help, I can’t only think about my schedule and needs, I must consider these things about my helper and work with it all to make things happen. I often must choose a path, put in my best effort and trust that it’ll work out.
As I think back on all the times I’ve needed help, I recall always being decisive of what I wanted but being unsure of how to make it happen. I used to think that the ‘I can’t’ was against me but now I know that it’s part of me. Not being able and needing help gets me to consider outside of myself, get creative for the solutions and practice patience for the plans to be executed. On a surface level, I can look down on myself for being dependent but being dependent respectfully makes me use other unseen qualities that make me who I am. Inability is another way of adding to the whole and is a practice for me to be myself. I’ve learned that accepting help from others is also a way of letting them be who they are. We all dance around each other whether we’re able or unable, it’s part of what being alive is about. We’re all together interacting in one way or another and we all contribute in our unique ways.
Photo By: CDC https://unsplash.com/@cdc
Similar Posts:
When Facing Limitations How does one become what they want to be while living with limitations? To overcome limitations, it takes dedication to get to know yourself and constant practice to shape yourself into what you envision. It’s important to admit that you do not have to know to open yourself up to learning and adaptation…
The Experience There will be times when we meet to trade cards, Or simply know that we carry the same cards in different ways. We learn separately, And are drawn back to each other to learn together…
For Your Life, You are the Best Experiences and emotions are pieces to the whole, Raising truths in our life. Temptation to grow through uncertainty, Offers opportunity to discover who we are…
