“Without the care of a strong foundation; there will be no room to give others consideration.” -Astrid Hardjana-Large
We will all have our moments when we wish to express our care for others but when we forget to maintain care for our own person, we will lose our ability to share our care. This is a lesson that can be learned from our mothers at a young age.
Within a family of four children, Mommy is everything. She is the person to run to when everyone can’t get along, she is the person to call when there is a question to ask, she is the person to clean up after the children finished their game and every day Mommy is the person to wake them, feed them and dress them for their day. Mommy possesses such a great power; it is very hard for children to recall that Mom truly needs time without her children there.
On a day Mom has a cold and is told to have a day of rest, the children cannot believe that this is true. What are they to do if she had to rest? Who would prepare their food when they got hungry? Who would inform the little brother that he had to play nice? Who was going to clean up their game when they finished? Children would not have the answers but they will feel sure that there was one person who could provide them the answers.
They would go and knock on Mom’s door and call, “Mommy?”
Mom would always be one to open her eyes and give them a small smile. “Yes, dears, what’s the matter?”
Children may not be able contain their thoughts and excitement. Every one of them let out their questions and start to encourage Mom to get out of bed and follow them. “Okay, okay. Slow down, one at a time please.”
The youngest may say, “Mommy, I’m hungry. I need food.”
An older child may pull on Mom’s arm and say, “I need your help to get all the craft supplies. Come.”
“You have to put our game away so we can start our second game.” Another child may say.
And last, but not least, “Mom, when are you getting out of bed? We need you.”
Mom may let out a small laugh and say to them all,” I believe you know how to help each other. Mom is going to rest today so that she will be able to help you tomorrow. Until Mommy is better, I believe that you can put your game away by yourselves and help each other to get snacks and craft supplies. Please allow me to rest so I can get better.”
Children may be filled with disappointment by such a response because how could Mom expect them to care for themselves? Doesn’t a mother always have power to care for others? Does she really need time to care for herself?
“OK, Mom, we will try our best. Just promise to do your best to get better. We miss you.”
A mother would smile at the words of care and open her arms to envelop her children into her hug. “Thank you very much. I appreciate your efforts and I miss caring for you guys, too. I promise to do my best to get better.”